My Mom and Max Run Together

Just the other day my dad commented, "The perfect Rust family day is a run in the morning and the rest of the day spent relaxing at the beach." Running literally (okay, metaphorically) runs in my veins. It is a part of my genetic make-up. It is my constant, my first love. My mother taught me this at an early age. I remember going to the 4th of July 10K Race at Washington Crossing State Park with my family.  It was a yearly tradition that my dad would run the mile fun run with Brandon and I, and then my parents would run the 10k together.  Running is something that defines us as a family.  The shores of New Jersey are one of our most favorite places on planet Earth. My very first race that I ever ran in High School was along the boardwalk at the Jersey Shore.  It was symbolic of the many years of running I had ahead.    

My mom passed away August 3rd, 2009 from Melanoma cancer.  Soon after, my family created The Light Up the Room Foundation.  Using Karen's story as a guide, the Light Up the Room Foundation provides support for abused children, victims of cancer, and cancer research.  Each year my family holds the Angels Run to raise money for the Light Up the Room Foundation.  

This year, in addition to raising money for this foundation my brother, Brandon will be raising money for his participation in the New York City Marathon.  He will be running on the Run for Autism Marathon Team as part of the Organization for Autism Research (OAR) in November.  

 "This is a cause that is dear to my heart as both of my nephews, Dexter and Max, are on the autism spectrum.  I have witnessed first-hand the transformation that both of my nephews have gone through when given the right type of support, and it truly is life changing."  -Brandon Rust.

OAR provides research and support for individuals and families with Autism, catering their care to match the needs of the individual--a must for any child along the spectrum.  To help support OAR and Brandon's marathon cause, please visit:

http://angelsshoptoo.org/epages/96e61832-98d2-478e-aeec-7036fe6333c4.sf/en_US/?ObjectPath=/Shops/96e61832-98d2-478e-aeec-7036fe6333c4/Categories/2

Additionally, the Angels Run 5k at Hopewell Vineyards is taking place on September 24th in Pennington, NJ. A portion of the proceeds from that day will go towards supporting Brandon’s marathon effort.  To register for the race, please visit:

https://www.raceit.com/Register/?event=37763

This year I am so excited to be traveling back East for the Angels Run.  In addition to my attendance, the Master of Ceremony, Max will be there!  It is going to be wonderful to see so many people who have not only supported my mom, but also to thank those who have supported Spaceship Max.  I am looking forward to an amazing trip and can't wait to see all of my friends and family at the Angels Run on September 24th.  

Thank you for the support!

Love,

Team Spaceship Max

Facebook Event Page:
https://www.facebook.com/events/142797492792104/?notif_t=plan_user_invited&notif_id=1468356101734285

Autism Awareness: What have I learned in the past year?

Last April 2, 2014 Autism was so new to me.  It was very fresh. I was so lost and confused.  I was heartbroken and very worried about Max's future.  Will and I had little knowledge about Autism and we didn't know how to help our son.  I have over the years as a teacher taught some students on the Autistic Spectrum, but I had never thought about having a child of my own with special needs.  And honestly who does?  How can you prepare for that?

Christmas 2013 - Max was official diagnosed January 2014.

Fast forward a year.  I am still learning everyday.  I want to continue to learn as Max grows and enters different stages of life.  One thing is certain I am more confident as a Autism Mom.  I am not angry or upset, but have the deepest joy and love for Max.  He is amazing just the way he is.  He has led us into his world, and I am so lucky he has.

10 things I have learned in the last year in not particular order:

1.  You have to take suggestions of how to "treat" a child with Autism just like that - a suggestion.  We have been approached by so many people telling us about the latest treatments: Natural oils that cure Autism, do not vaccinate, not allowing him to drink cows milk, taking red dye out of his diet completely, etc.  Some suggestions have been wonderful and we are grateful for them. But we don't use all suggestions because we have to do what we feel is best for our child. 

2.  Vaccinations do NOT cause autism.  It has been proven over and over again.  Then end.

3.  Early intervention is KEY.  I have said this so many times but if you notice something doesn't seem right developmentally with your child or you have a gut feeling that your child isn't thriving socially talk to your pediatrician.  Early intervention can start as early as 18 months.

4.  Find a support group.  I don't know what I would do without friend and family, but sometimes you just need to talk to someone who has a child that is dealing with the same issues your child is.  I love being a part of the Giant Steps community.  I love being able to connect with other Moms to share stories, ask questions, and get advice.

Max's first day at Giant Steps November 2014

5.  Take time for yourself.  Everyone needs a break.  Everyone needs time to be alone and not be in charge.  I go to the gym, I zone out on my ipod, and I watch bad television.  But it helps.

6.  Be honest with your feelings.  There are really tough days.  There are days where Max has had tantrum after tantrum that last anywhere from 5 minutes to 45, didn't sleep the night before, has only had chocolate milk to drink all day, and won't put on anything but a diaper.  Oh and to top it off has watched the same Thomas the Train Episode on repeat.  This is a frustrating day.  And it is okay to be frustrated.  It is okay to cry, to be mad, and upset.  Validate your feelings.

7.  Progress is progress.  Max is about 18 months to 2 years behind his peers.  It is hard to see other friends with children the same age as Max doing things that Max can't do yet.  But on the flip side it is so rewarding to see him accomplish even the littlest thing.  Max is working on full sentences with commands at school right now.  He says "I want choco-milk."  Or "I want bread."  This is huge progress.  Socially Max says "Hi and Bye" and waves to people who are entering a room.  I love progress because it can be little or big but it is moving forward, it is a step in the right direction.

8.  I used to be so scared to take Max out of the house.  I hated taking him anywhere because I didn't want people to stare at him while he was having a tantrum, or crawling on the floor watching the wheels of the shopping cart, or repeating the same word while flapping his hands.  I was embarrassed.  And that was the wrong thinking.  Max isn't embarrassed, he doesn't know any better, and you know what he is happy crawling on the floor.  I needed to change my thinking.  Max deserves the same experiences other kids have, and if that means a few tantrums and people saying something rude or staring at us, so be it.

9.  Talk about your child.  People are curious.  It is human nature.  I am open to telling people Max is Autistic.  I am not trying to excuse a behavior, I am hoping it makes people aware.  People are different.  Children are different.

"Everyone is handed adversity in life. No one's journey is easy. It's how they handle it that makes people unique."

10.  Laugh.  A lot.  Oh do I laugh a lot.  Max has said and done the funniest things.  He makes jokes, and wants to make you smile.  He is a fun kid.  Entering his world as been the BEST decision I have made as a mother.  I love his laugh, and I hope he continues to like mine.

Autism Awareness Month April 2015 - I hope you all Light It Up Blue for Max and for Autism.

Thank you for your love, support, encouraging words, and prayers.  It means so much.
Tiffany Strong